[Error: unknown template qotd]In terms of snark and whatnot, prooooooobably not, really. I'm usually only snarky with really close friends, both in real life and online, so I likely wouldn't say anything to someone online that I wouldn't in real life, and with snark 99% of the time it'd be as a joke anyway. There've been some frustrating raids and other run-ins with people online (RP maybe, not often though) where I've told people off, but if they'd been face to face with me and had made me just as frustrated then I'd likely have acted the same way / said the same thing.
Other than that, to answer in a similar fashion to my better half, when it comes to emotional / personal things, I probably have said things to people online that I wouldn't in real life, or at least I've said them sooner at least, heh. That brings me back to the old, old days, back when I was in Grade 12 when we got our first dial-up account. At the risk of dating myself, back in, what, 1994? Haha damn. x.x But yes, back then when Netscape was allowing you to show actual graphics on webpages omgwtf, HoTMaiL wasn't owned by Microsoft, when Webcrawler was the bomb (it was always my search engine of choice back then), and chat sites that involved lots and lots of refreshes were à la mode. I remember my favourite haunt used to be the
Chat House (haha I'm so stopping to check these urls to see which sites are still up, btw) and I remember spending many a late night there. I don't remember too many of the people that I used to talk to there; it was pretty random and back then you'd just type in a user name (I'd go by Hazard, fyi, which later on in my IRC rp days was the handle of one of the sim leaders there so I went by Diamond, which lead to me being canadiandiamond here when I created this LJ. Random factlets ftw!) and away you went, none of this registering on the site or having a username/password set up, so every night you'd see a different set of people more often than not.
I didn't really form any friendships there or anything, though every now and then you'd talk to the same people for awhile. I do recall a girl from Quebec and talking to her a few times, because she was so enthusiastic about asking me questions about NL when she found out I was a Newfie, haha. XD Other than that, though, I recall one girl, albeit vaguely - I don't recall her handle or real name, if I ever knew it - who I talked to for a fairly long amount of time. Which, well, back then was, what, a few weeks maybe. XD And in these chat sites you had public rooms that'd hold like 20 users or so, some more, and private chat rooms too - I think one was the hot tub, lol - that held smaller numbers, some for just two. After talking to this girl for so long and thinking she was so awesome I remember asking her to one of the private rooms and awkwardly fumbling around in chat until I finally blurted something out like 'I love you!' or something. Oh lord it's so embarrassing to even type out here. >.> I'll never really forget her reaction, even if I can't recall the exact words, but basically it was something like 'uhhhh we don't really even
know each other, wtf dude.' Which was very accurate because we didn't, and it was a bit of a bummer at the time - not to mention I had zero experience with dating or anything even close to dating in my high school days so that'd been a first, very very feeble and sad attempt XD - but it was a good lesson to learn. It taught me to be more guarded with myself, I think, and not to open up so easily, or at least to not just, you know,
leap into those situations so soon. I don't think I really talked to her much after that, and I can't blame her for that either, hehe. XD
In general, I've always found it easier to talk to people online about relationships and those kind of things, though I got better with that in university and law school, progressively so, albeit with bad results just the same, the odd date here and there aside. There are many other awkward online conversations that I could go on and on about but I'll spare you those. XD But yes, it's kind of ironic that my longest relationship and the one that lead to marriage was also started online. *♥ to
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Anyway, moving on! It can be easier to discount real feelings onine, totally, and I've seen so much of that in my days of RP. People starting threads or logs with others, either through message boards or over AIM/IRC etc., then walking away for hours or days and not replying, letting things die, etc., plus just generally acting like idiots thanks to the anonymity provided by the internet (which is less and less applicable these days, really), I've seen lots of it. I've probably done my fair share of it, too, though I've always tried not to if I could help it. I've had lots of relationships from MMOs and whatnot that've just disappeared when the game died or when I/others lost interest in playing, and sticking in LOTRO so long has been very odd and strange at times to me that way; I've never stuck with anything this long before, really, aside from RPs but even those were very few and far between. It's definitely easier to discount and/or ignore feelings that way, which can be a good thing and a bad thing, depending on the person and the circumstances. I've seen more of this lately, without naming names, and the effects it's had on the people involved, and I hate it when it ends up hurting people, intentional or not. Especially when the people getting hurt are close to me, very not cool to say the least. >.< I won't say any more about that, but yeah, it's easy for things to play out that way, intentionally or not.
It can become habit forming, I think, if that's the main type of interaction that one has. I could see it becoming that way, really, and I've probably been guilty of that myself. Especially when I was working in Marystown, as I didn't know anyone else around my age at all, aside from one friend and his girlfriend, and when he moved away/broke up with her she had nothing to do with me at all, grr, just thinking about being abandoned and ignored like that makes me angry. And her friends, one of whom I had tried to ask out, all of them just forgot I existed... yeah, let's move on from that. XD I've been trying to get better, going out with friends in the city more often, though it really is easier to just get online and hang out there, especially with LOTRO being such a timesink and offering such a distraction. Add in the fact that my wife is there and I can talk to her there and, yeah, very very hard to pull myself away from that, and I haven't been much lately, though I'm working on it. One of my resolutions of 2010 is to try and do other things, which kinda ties in to exercising more and getting away from the computer in general, but we'll see how that goes. Oops, I went off on a tangent there. Yes, it can be habit forming. XD
And one more meme, for which I was tagged by mah wife,
believeitup:
A. List seven habits/quirks/facts about yourself.
B. Tag seven people to do the same.
C. Do not tag the person who tagged you or say that you tag "whoever wants to do it".1. I get very attached to things/places, emotionally speaking. I'm a packrat in general and cling onto things that have no real practical purpose whatsoever, like movie ticket stubs, programs, etc. Heck, I have a bunch in front of me right now, from movies I saw over the holidays with
believeitup,
onlyonechoice, and
samzimmerman. As for places, well, just ask
believeitup how hard it was for me to say bye to her apartment in Boston, heh. XD On second thought, don't. >.> That was rough, because not only was I saying bye to her for a then-as-of-yet-undetermined period of time (and that was pre-engagement too, just after her Master's grad) but I knew I wouldn't be going back to Boston for awhile, and not to that apartment, which is where I'd first met her face-to-face (just as friends way back when) and where I'd first really experienced America zomg, and where I'd gone to see my first Bruins game, and where I'd first been with her after we started dating, etc. So yes, a lot of important moments in my life occurred in Boston and I'd stayed there with her for all of them, and it was hard to say goodbye. So, yes, I'm very weird about things/places like that.
2. So as not to leave talking about Boston as a sad thing, I'm going back there in March with my wife, and we're attending PAX East, and I can't wait. :D We've also got some nights booked in the same hotel we first visited back in the day when we started dating, and the last night we're there I've managed to secure us tickets to see
Vampire Weekend play at the Orpheum, omg, I can't wait. It will be a very triumphant return to Boston. :D
3. I am always reading about a dozen or more books at a time. Today I actually finished one, omg, the 6th book in the Dresden series - randomly, I thought I owned the next and went to start it right away, but no can has yet :/ - but I've got any number laying around my room with impromptu bookmarks in them. Usually the receipt from where I bought it, but one is a tear-off from my Canadian Customs form that I stuck in there, and some actual bookmarks here and there. It'd take too long to list how many I'm in the middle of offhand, but yes, I need to work on that, or at least stop buying new books until I get through some more.
4. I tend to watch tv shows in fits and starts, the most recent being tearing through all of the 13 episodes of Glee over Christmas break (random: looking on IDMB, the actress who plays Quinn was in three episodes of VM? Cool!), and buying the entire series of House on DVD during a Boxing Day sale at Target while in the States. I've yet to open those, though, but will eventually. I also bought the entire series of Black Books, which is much smaller but omg so so so SO funny, and have been watching them too.
5. I've been requisitioned by my father to learn how to play the accordion, so I can teach him how to play it. I'm still working on that, hah, but it's kinda fun. I've not really done much with it but it doesn't seem too bad to learn the basics, I'm just kinda failing at how to alternate between pushing and pulling the accordion apart for the right notes. I haven't spent much time at it, either, but we'll see what happens.
6. I miss writing and keep meaning to get back to it in some capacity, though I know not what kind yet. I tried
NaNoWriMo again this past November and, while I got off to a good start, failed miserably. I was very close to trying rp again but chickened out of that, too, and haven't been able to write anything in general. I tried a little short story around Hallowe'en but only knocked out a few paragraphs and the unfinished draft of that's still on my desktop somewhere. :/
7. Hmm, what else... oh yes. I completely fell in love with Chick-Fil-A during my most recent trip to Philadelphia, omg. Best. Chicken. Ever. And now I've gone and made myself hungry for a chicken fillet sandwich and handspun milkshake that's 1,500 miles away from me, goshdarnit. Mreh. XD
Seven people, hmm.
lethendy,
avalonmissy,
_chibiko_,
arxev,
frzn_mmnt,
ms_firecracker, and
uncut_diamond. :)
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